From a Client

I’ve often been called a people pleaser, but I never really understood what that meant or how it was affecting my life and my choices. Talking with Ilaria helped me realise that I’m allowed to put myself first, and that I’m allowed to find pleasure in doing things I want — not only through other people. 

Ilaria immediately put me at ease; it felt more like chatting with a friend than anything associated with “therapy.” I had no idea how much I needed someone to listen to me and prioritise me, or that I was even entitled to that. Through our conversations and the relaxing hypnotherapy, which put me in a calm, meditative state, I was able to recognise my self‑worth and set clear goals for my own happiness, independent of others.

I now feel stronger and more content. Saying yes when I genuinely want to, and understanding that it’s my choice, has empowered me. I have better focus on what I want, and I’m able to prioritise myself without feeling burdened by others. I’m still a people pleaser in some ways, but I no longer feel obliged to meet everyone’s needs. Instead, I pause and ask myself: What do I want?